Staying Safe
Unhealthy Relationship Quiz
Sometimes it can be difficult to see if you are in an unhealthy relationship because a perpetrator's behavioural change can be subtle.
The following quiz could assist you in identifying if your relationship has become unhealthy.
Scoring
Each question has a point value in brackets () for Yes or No. Use the Your Score list to work out how many points you scored for each question.
- My friends don’t like my partner Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner often breaks or throws things Yes (5) / No (0)
- My partner thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner supports my hopes and dreams Yes (0) / No (1)
- My partner is very jealous Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner tells me what I should wear and how I should look Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner threatens to destroy my things Yes (3) / No (0)
- My partner encourages me to go places and see people Yes (0) / No (1)
- My partner tries to control who I see Yes (1) / No (0)
- I often feel like I am really nervous or walking on eggshells Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner is happy for me to have my own life Yes (0) / No (1)
- My partner often says mean things about me or puts me down Yes (1) / No (0)
- I always feel like I am to blame and that all our fights are my fault Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner makes threats to hurt me or my family Yes (3) / No (0)
- If I don’t respond to my partner’s phone calls or texts they get upset or angry Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner forces me to have sex or pressures me to do things I don’t feel comfortable doing Yes (5) / No (0)
- My partner often accuses me of cheating on them or flirting with others Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner often punches walls or other things when they are angry Yes (5) / No (0)
- I feel like my partner is always checking up on me and wanting to know where I am Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner comforts me when I’m upset and listens when I need to talk Yes (0) / No (1)
- My partner doesn’t like me seeing friends or family and makes it hard for me to see them Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner often yells or screams at me and calls me nasty names Yes (5) / No (0)
- My partner has mood swings and can be yelling at me one minute then kind and sweet the next Yes (1) / No (0)
- I feel like no one else would want me if I wasn’t with my partner Yes (1) / No (0)
- My partner is happy for me to go and visit friends and family whenever I want Yes (0) / No (1)
- My partner threatens to hurt or kill themself because of things I do to make them angry Yes (3) / No (0)
- My partner physically hurts me (punches, shoves, grabs, chokes, pushes or something else) Yes (5) / No (0)
- My partner often humiliates me in front of other people. Sometimes in a joking way and sometimes not Yes (1) / No (0)