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Staying Safe

Unhealthy Relationship Quiz

Sometimes it can be difficult to see if you are in an unhealthy relationship because a perpetrator's behavioural change can be subtle.

The following quiz could assist you in identifying if your relationship has become unhealthy.


Each question has a point value in brackets () for Yes or No. Use the Your Score list to work out how many points you scored for each question.

  1. My friends don’t like my partner Yes (1) / No (0)
  2. My partner often breaks or throws things Yes (5) / No (0)
  3. My partner thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice Yes (1) / No (0)
  4. My partner supports my hopes and dreams Yes (0) / No (1)
  5. My partner is very jealous Yes (1) / No (0)
  6. My partner tells me what I should wear and how I should look Yes (1) / No (0)
  7. My partner threatens to destroy my things Yes (3) / No (0)
  8. My partner encourages me to go places and see people Yes (0) / No (1)
  9. My partner tries to control who I see Yes (1) / No (0)
  10. I often feel like I am really nervous or walking on eggshells Yes (1) / No (0)
  11. My partner is happy for me to have my own life Yes (0) / No (1)
  12. My partner often says mean things about me or puts me down Yes (1) / No (0)
  13. I always feel like I am to blame and that all our fights are my fault Yes (1) / No (0)
  14. My partner makes threats to hurt me or my family Yes (3) / No (0)
  15. If I don’t respond to my partner’s phone calls or texts they get upset or angry Yes (1) / No (0)
  16. My partner forces me to have sex or pressures me to do things I don’t feel comfortable doing Yes (5) / No (0)
  17. My partner often accuses me of cheating on them or flirting with others Yes (1) / No (0)
  18. My partner often punches walls or other things when they are angry Yes (5) / No (0)
  19. I feel like my partner is always checking up on me and wanting to know where I am Yes (1) / No (0)
  20. My partner comforts me when I’m upset and listens when I need to talk Yes (0) / No (1)
  21. My partner doesn’t like me seeing friends or family and makes it hard for me to see them Yes (1) / No (0)
  22. My partner often yells or screams at me and calls me nasty names Yes (5) / No (0)
  23. My partner has mood swings and can be yelling at me one minute then kind and sweet the next Yes (1) / No (0)
  24. I feel like no one else would want me if I wasn’t with my partner Yes (1) / No (0)
  25. My partner is happy for me to go and visit friends and family whenever I want Yes (0) / No (1)
  26. My partner threatens to hurt or kill themself because of things I do to make them angry Yes (3) / No (0)
  27. My partner physically hurts me (punches, shoves, grabs, chokes, pushes or something else) Yes (5) / No (0)
  28. My partner often humiliates me in front of other people. Sometimes in a joking way and sometimes not Yes (1) / No (0) 

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